{"id":10859,"date":"2021-04-01T00:21:08","date_gmt":"2021-03-31T21:21:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kadrandergi.com.tr\/?p=10859"},"modified":"2021-04-01T00:21:08","modified_gmt":"2021-03-31T21:21:08","slug":"mualla-abla-sendromu-ve-ontolojik-ic-catisma","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kadrandergi.com.tr\/?p=10859","title":{"rendered":"Mualla Abla Sendromu Ve Ontolojik \u0130\u00e7 \u00c7at\u0131\u015fma!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u0130yi bir g\u00f6zlemciyseniz, \u00e7evrenizde s\u00fcrekli birilerini taklit eden, ona \u00f6yk\u00fcnen ki\u015filere mutlaka rastlam\u0131\u015fs\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r. Normal hayatta da b\u00f6yledir bu, bir \u015fark\u0131y\u0131 ilkin kimden dinlediyseniz o \u201cas\u0131l\u201d olarak kal\u0131r haf\u0131zam\u0131zda, di\u011ferleri \u00e7ok iyi de okusa ilkinin tad\u0131n\u0131 bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc vermez. Ne\u015fet Erta\u015f t\u00fcrk\u00fclerini kimden dinlerseniz dinleyin, Ne\u015fet Erta\u015f\u2019\u0131n sesi kadar tat vermez.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130\u015fte bu yukar\u0131da bahsetti\u011fimiz taklit\u00e7i zat-\u0131 muhteremler, ailenizden biri olabilece\u011fi gibi konu kom\u015fu, ev veya okul arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z veya akraba-i taallukattan biri de olabilir pek\u00e2l\u00e2\u2026 Siz, ihtiyaca binaen evin perdelerini de\u011fi\u015ftirirsiniz, alm\u0131\u015fken k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 olsun, 5 kuru\u015fu fazla olsun, g\u00fcll\u00fc, dall\u0131, budakl\u0131 olsun, diye \u00f6zen g\u00f6sterirsiniz.<\/p>\n<p>Hani Cuma g\u00fcn\u00fc att\u0131\u011f\u0131 mesaj d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda dinle ilgisi olmayan abi ve ablalar\u0131n, Cumadan Cumaya, kandilden kandile, bayramdan bayrama al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k haline getirdikleri all\u0131, g\u00fcll\u00fc, b\u00fclb\u00fcll\u00fc, dikenli bilumum nebatat\u0131 b\u00fcnyesinde bar\u0131nd\u0131ran m\u00fcbarek g\u00fcn ve gecelerimiz i\u00e7in haz\u0131rlanan mesajlara benzeyen perdelerden can\u0131m!<\/p>\n<p>Bir bakars\u0131n\u0131z kom\u015fu Mualla Abla da ihtiyac\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 halde ayn\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 alm\u0131\u015f. Evine bir \u00e7ay i\u00e7mek vesilesiyle gitti\u011finizde g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz hani ve:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAy Mualla abla siz de mi ald\u0131n\u0131z bu perdelerden? Ben ge\u00e7en ay de\u011fi\u015ftirdim hani, ayn\u0131 perdeler i\u015fte!\u201d dersiniz. Mualla abla da hi\u00e7 oral\u0131 de\u011fildir, sizin evde g\u00f6rmemi\u015f ve g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc an itibariyle Ha\u015fim Abiye kamyonla trip at\u0131p: \u201c\u015eu Sidikli Nejla bile perdeleri de\u011fi\u015ftirmi\u015f, benim ondan neyim eksik Ha\u015fim! Size sa\u00e7\u0131m\u0131 s\u00fcp\u00fcrge, elimi tost makinesi, g\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc mobese yapt\u0131m. Y\u0131llarca, g\u00fcny\u00fcz\u00fc g\u00f6rmedim, bana iki par\u00e7a kuma\u015f\u0131 \u00e7ok mu g\u00f6r\u00fcyorsun! Ay ben \u00f6lseydim de kurtulsayd\u0131m! Nedir \u00e7ekti\u011fim \u00e7ile\u201d diye ba\u015flayan uzun tiratlardan sonra Ha\u015fim Abi, \u201cAl, Allah a\u015fk\u0131na kredi kart\u0131n\u0131 da ne al\u0131yorsan al. \u00d6mr\u00fcm\u00fc yedin, i\u00e7im \u015fi\u015fti hatun, sus da uyuyay\u0131m, sabah senin alaca\u011f\u0131n perdeleri \u00f6demek i\u00e7in i\u015fe gidece\u011fim ve bir ay boyunca \u00e7al\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131m, ancak \u00f6derim. Allah i\u00e7in sus art\u0131k\u201d dememi\u015ftir sanki Ha\u015fim Abi!<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAy siz de mi ayn\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 ald\u0131n\u0131z! Ge\u00e7enlerde sizde k\u0131s\u0131r yemi\u015ftik de hi\u00e7 fark etmemi\u015fim inan\u0131r m\u0131s\u0131n?\u201d diye riyak\u00e2rl\u0131kla devam eder Mualla Abla\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Mualla abla hayat\u0131n\u0131 size g\u00f6re ayarlar adeta. Ayakkab\u0131 alsan\u0131z ayn\u0131s\u0131ndan, masa \u00f6rt\u00fcs\u00fc, oklava, televizyon\u2026 Liste uzay\u0131p gider. Bir s\u00fcre sonra Mualla ablalar can s\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 hal al\u0131r ve siz de bir f\u0131rsat bulup Mualla ablaya laf sokmak i\u00e7in f\u0131rsat kollars\u0131n\u0131z hani. Mahallede gergin bir elektrik vard\u0131r, Mualla abla y\u00fcz\u00fcnden \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc\u2026 Size tavsiyem; Mualla Ablalar y\u00fcz\u00fcnden strese girmemeniz ve rahat olman\u0131zd\u0131r. Siz ne kadar rahat olursan\u0131z Mualla Ablalar o kadar haris ve kindar olur.<\/p>\n<p>Unutmay\u0131n ki; as\u0131l ve taklit aras\u0131nda tek y\u00f6nl\u00fc bir ili\u015fki vard\u0131r. Taklit, as\u0131l olana \u00f6yk\u00fcnen, dolay\u0131s\u0131yla as\u0131l olandaki de\u011fi\u015fimden en \u00e7ok etkilenen taraft\u0131r, yani Mualla Ablalard\u0131r. \u0130yi taklit, k\u00f6t\u00fc taklit ayr\u0131m\u0131na gitmeden belirtmek gerekir ki; as\u0131l ve taklit aras\u0131ndaki en b\u00fcy\u00fck fark; taklit olan\u0131n ya\u015fayabilmek i\u00e7in as\u0131l olana ihtiyac\u0131 oldu\u011fudur. Siz olmasan\u0131z, Mualla Abla adeta ya\u015fam enerjini kaybedecektir.<\/p>\n<p>\u015eair diyor ya:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cEy d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131m, sen benim ifadem ve h\u0131z\u0131ms\u0131n,<br \/>\nG\u00fcnd\u00fcz geceye muhta\u00e7, bana da sen laz\u0131ms\u0131n.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Mualla ablan\u0131n ya\u015famas\u0131 i\u00e7in size ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131r. Sizinle her konuda yar\u0131\u015f halinde olmas\u0131 ve h\u0131rsla sizi takip etmesi Mualla Ablan\u0131n ya\u015fam amac\u0131d\u0131r. Ontolojik sorunlar\u0131n\u0131 sizin \u00fczerinizden halletmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r bu Mualla ablalar. Bazen de olduk\u00e7a ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olurlar.<\/p>\n<p>S\u0131k\u0131 bir PR ile o sizi taklit etmiyor da siz onu taklit ediyormu\u015fsunuz imaj\u0131 verir konu kom\u015fu, bilumum esnafa\u2026 Ve siz onun kadar pi\u015fkin ve ars\u0131z olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z i\u00e7in \u00e7o\u011fu zaman bu konuda ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olur Mualla Ablalar\u2026 Bu durum olduk\u00e7a can s\u0131k\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r, o kadar bezersiniz, y\u0131lars\u0131n\u0131z ki art\u0131k dert anlatmak dahi istemezsiniz\u2026 Bu durumda size d\u00fc\u015fen, Mualla Ablaya sinir olmak yerine \u00e7ay\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 al\u0131p as\u0131l olan\u0131n siz ve taklit olan Mualla Abla oldu\u011funu bilerek duda\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda m\u00fcstehzi bir g\u00fcl\u00fcmseme ile Mualla Ablay\u0131 hasedinden \u00e7atlatmak olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Zaman zaman olta bile atabilirsiniz kaliteli sazan Mualla Ablalara.<\/p>\n<p>Konu Kom\u015fu \u00e7ay i\u00e7erken ve herkes kendi aras\u0131nda kulis yaparken siz ba\u015fka bir kom\u015funuzla s\u0131radan bir konu konu\u015fuyormu\u015f gibi:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAy Z\u00fclf\u00fcye Abla, e\u015fim diyor ki, her yaz tatile denize gidiyoruz s\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131k, bu yaz da tarihi yerler g\u00f6rmek, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za Anadolu\u2019muzu tan\u0131tmak istiyorum. Valla hakl\u0131, ben de ara\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131m buldum, bu yaz \u00f6nce Yozgat\u2019a oradan da Bayburt\u2019a gidece\u011fiz, \u00e7ok g\u00fczel tarihi yerler var oralarda, kesin karar verdim, bilet bak\u0131yoruz\u201d diye laf at\u0131n ortaya. K\u0131s\u0131k sesle de yapsan\u0131z da bu konu\u015fmay\u0131 Mualla Abla s\u00fcrekli sizi taklit etmek \u00fczere haz\u0131r k\u0131ta bekledi\u011finden emin olun bir kula\u011f\u0131 ve bir g\u00f6z\u00fc sizde di\u011fer kulak ve g\u00f6z\u00fcyle de di\u011fer kom\u015fular\u0131 idare etmektedir.<\/p>\n<p>B\u00f6ylelikle Mualla Abla ile yaz\u0131n denizde de tesad\u00fcfen kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fma ihtimalini ortadan kald\u0131rm\u0131\u015f olursunuz. Siz yaz\u0131n Mu\u011fla\u2019da tatil keyfi yap\u0131p denize kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7ekirdek \u00e7itleyip \u00e7ay\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 h\u00f6p\u00fcrdetirken; Mualla Abla, Ha\u015fim Abinin can\u0131na okumu\u015f ve Yozgat\u2019a biletleri ald\u0131rm\u0131\u015f oradan da haritada tam olarak yerini bilmedi\u011fi Bayburt i\u00e7in de otel rezervasyonu yapt\u0131rm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r \u00e7oktan\u2026 Birlik ve beraberli\u011fe en \u00e7ok ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n oldu\u011fu bu g\u00fcnlerde Mualla Ablaya e\u015fsiz bir Yozgat ve Bayburt tatili ya\u015fatt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z i\u00e7in emin olun sizi bir \u00f6m\u00fcr unutmayacakt\u0131r! Taklit ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n ya da be\u011fenilmenin basiretsizlerce onaylanmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Kendisi olamayan\u0131n d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fc noktadan varmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 noktaya eri\u015fme \u00e7abas\u0131n\u0131n semeresi taklit edilenin de\u011ferini art\u0131r\u0131r sadece. Bir i\u015fte iyiysen, do\u011fruysan ve i\u015fini her anlamda profesyonelce yap\u0131yorsan mutlaka taklit edenin \u00e7\u0131kacak, bu taklitlerle nemalanmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Ne diyordu \u015eems-i Tebriz-i:<\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cAnlad\u0131m ki insanlar susan\u0131 korkak, g\u00f6rmezden geleni aptal, affetmeyi bileni \u00e7antada keklik san\u0131yorlar. Oysaki biz istedi\u011fimiz kadar hayat\u0131m\u0131zdalar, g\u00f6z yumdu\u011fumuz kadar d\u00fcr\u00fcstler ve sustu\u011fumuz kadar insanlar.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Unutmay\u0131n, marjinal olmak u\u011fruna, orijinal olmay\u0131 unutanlar yaln\u0131zca taklit\u00e7i olurlar. Karga b\u00fclb\u00fcl\u00fc taklit edeyim derken \u00f6tmeyi unuturmu\u015f. Siz siz olun ne papa\u011fan gibi ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc taklit edin ne de b\u00fclb\u00fcl gibi bo\u015funa \u015fak\u0131y\u0131n.<\/p>\n<p>Tavr\u0131n\u0131z olsun.<\/p>\n<p>Tarz\u0131n\u0131z olsun.<\/p>\n<p>Hedefiniz olsun.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c7izginiz olsun.<\/p>\n<p>Prensipleriniz olsun.<\/p>\n<p>Fark\u0131n\u0131z olsun.<\/p>\n<p>S\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131z olsun.<\/p>\n<p>Velhas\u0131l kel\u00e2m her \u015feyiniz size has; nev-i \u015fahs\u0131n\u0131za m\u00fcnhas\u0131r olsun.<\/p>\n<p>Unutmay\u0131n ki taklitler asl\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015fat\u0131r. B\u0131rak\u0131n ya\u015fats\u0131nlar sizi\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u0130yi bir g\u00f6zlemciyseniz, \u00e7evrenizde s\u00fcrekli birilerini&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":167,"featured_media":10843,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[67,53],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kadrandergi.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10859"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kadrandergi.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kadrandergi.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kadrandergi.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/167"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kadrandergi.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=10859"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.kadrandergi.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10859\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kadrandergi.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kadrandergi.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=10859"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kadrandergi.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=10859"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kadrandergi.com.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=10859"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}